There are two types of people in this world, extroverts and introverts. I happen to fall into the category of introvert, if you want me to talk to you you’re gonna have to work pretty hard before I become comfortable with you and, unfortunately, this often makes me seem like a rude and unpleasant person which a completely wrong assumption. However, I am friends with a number of extroverts and I often look at them being loud and think ‘wow, I wish I could just talk to people like that’ but when I try, nothing comes out of my mouth except something that sounds like this ‘ahhh-shamsahgdvt-qwersvfd’ and the person I’m interacting with tends to edge away slowly with a disturbed look on their face.
However, there are some upsides to being an
awkward, unsociable and often rude person introvert. If somebody I dislike trys to talk to me, they won’t get very far. Unlike many extroverts, I don’t have this unstoppable need to fill up every silence with whatever pops into my head. If I don’t like you and you try to talk to me I just sit there in silence until you eventually walk away, often confused and slightly disturbed. However, if another introvert try’s to speak to me and I want to make friends with them, we both end up sitting in silence or engaging in some forced small talk until one of us gets too awkward and shuffles away. This means I tend to only become friends with extroverts who will fill up my silences for me but this does mean I never get a word in edgeways. You try going into town with 6 extroverts. You will not get anything done. However, I am the one that these extroverted friends come to when they have a problem. I am the one who will listen to them and understand them and be there to pick them back up when things get messy. If one of my friends breaks up with a boy (sidenote, much easier to get one of these when an extrovert), falls out with a friend or has problems at home they come to me. They know I won’t talk over them or tell anyone, after all who have I got to tell? Anyway, I guess this means I form very strong bonds with my friends and am very loyal to them. At least being this shy has some perks I suppose.
Anyway, being an introvert or an extrovert has it’s perks, even though I often find myself wishing I was the other side of the spectrum.