It’s that awkward time of year again

So here we are, that awkward few days between boxing day and new year. The leftovers have been eaten, the presents opened, the sales exhausted yet we still have new year looming over our heads.

I tend to spend this time trailing around depleted sales after my enthusiastic friends desperately searching my purse for non-existent Christmas money with my left hand and presenting my phone to the shop ceiling like Simba the lion with my right in an attempt to connect to the various ‘open’ Wifi services. I then return home to yet another leftover turkey dish which become progressively less and less like the roasted bird we enjoyed all that time ago as the days go by.

However, this year I have decided to use these days more productively. Why must we subject ourselves to the disappointment of an empty purse or the embarrassment of realising you are 2p short just before the counter and having to give your place up to another bargain hungry, dead-eyed shopper? Well, the answer to that is we do not have to. This year I have avoided shops, dodged sales and restrained from dipping into my savings.

Nevertheless, we cannot spent this period of time simply wrapped up in blankets, gorging on the left over Christmas chocolates. No, we must use this time to prepare for the new year, and here’s how to do it;

  1. Clean out your wardrobe. VERY IMPORTANT. We must dispose of the fashion mistakes we have collected through the year and make way for Christmas clothes and, well, new year means new lines! (However, make sure any clothes that can still be worn go to charity shops, not the bin!)
  2. Plan a new years ever party. What could brighten up this time more than planning a party? However, if like me, you don’t want the stress of hosting a party or you are not old enough then plan something smaller. Just have a few friends over for pizza and a movie or a sleepover.
  3. Do some internet shopping. If, unlike me, you have managed to save some Christmas money, do some sales shopping in the comfort of your own home. This is a great thing to do after cleaning out your wardrobe as you can plan what you need and make sure you only buy things you will wear.
  4. Do something besides shopping. Gasp. I know it’s winter and there’s not a great deal of things to do but be creative. Go ice-skating, get wrapped up and go for a winter walk on the beach, go to a friends house and do some baking, buy an all day bus ticket and see where the route takes you, I don’t know, just anything but sales shopping!
  5. If you’re a girl, go through your makeup and hair stuff and try out some new styles using what you already have. Honestly, you’ll be surprised by what’s been lurking in your drawers all year!
  6. Finally, do your Christmas homework. Yes I know it’s a chore, believe me, but you’ll be able to relax for the rest of the holidays and it’ll avoid any ‘it’s 10 o’clock and that massive project is due tomorrow oh *bad word*’ moments.

So that’s how I’ll be spending the next few days. I hope this was helpful in someway.. maybe?

Happy new year!

Thanks for reading!x

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Anonymous blogging; upsides and downsides

I suppose there are two reasons I am an anonymous blogger;

  1. I am still a secondary school student so am being constantly bombarded with assemblies about internet safety. In fact, I had one just yesterday about getting naked on omegal which was accompanied by a video. You can only imagine how that went down in a room full of 15 year olds.
  2. I don’t want my friends and family to read this blog. I suppose, this being a personal blog, anyone who found it would probably spot some similarities between me and this anonymous blogger but this is much less likely to happen if I don’t reveal my name. I guess I don’t want them to read it because I hate people reading my work. I mean, I find it hard to hand essays in to my English teacher, so friends and family finding this blog is essentially one of my worst nightmares.

Anyway, if you hadn’t already guessed by the title, there are upsides and downsides to being an anonymous blogger such as myself. I decided to share these with you partly because they might be useful and partly because I haven’t blogged in 5 days and have no other ideas.

Upsides:

For me, the biggest upside of anonymous blogging is none of my friends and family have to know. I understand that many people write their blog partly to keep up to date with their loved ones but, if you are like me and just want to sit behind a computer screen peering into the personal lives of others and ranting about your day, then anonymous blogging is the way forward.

Secondly, it’s much safer. I know my internet vulnerability has pretty much peaked since I have facebook, twitter and instagram, but I post no where near as much about my personal life on those sights. I can also lock them from strangers (to an extent) but this blog is open for the world to see and, after having internet safety hazards constantly hammered into me for 4 years, that scares me a little bit.

I also don’t have to worry too much about embarrassing things I post because no one knows who I am. I have confessed a number of things on this blog that not many people know about me (99 to be exact) and it would be rather embarrassing if people I actually had to talk to could read about them on the internet.

Finally, teachers won’t find out. There have been a number of people in my year who have started various blogs and youtube/keek channels who have been told by the school to take them down. I mean sure, that’s because the where posting pictures of them in their underwear but I would be very embarrassed if the school asked me to take this down.

(I was also hoping to have an air of mystery surrounding me but I don’t think that’s happened…)

Downsides:

Since this is a personal blog, it’s frustrating not being able to reveal very much about myself. It would be easier if this was a beauty or technology advice blog or something but I really had my heart set on a personal one. They are the ones I most enjoy reading (we’re all stalkers on the inside) and I feel personal blogs can really connect to the reader.

That brings me onto the next point, I can’t connect to readers as well as others because I can’t reveal too much about myself. I always feel that the beauty of persona blogs is the fact you feel as though you are really part of that persons world and they are part of yours. It’s much more difficult to create this effect when you don’t want to reveal your identity.

I can’t post pictures of myself. I don’t mean I have a constant desire to post selfies all over your computer screen, but it would be nice to be able to share photography of holidays or days out. I am forming an idea in my head about posting some of my photography but it can’t be personal or show mine, or my friends and families faces.  

Who knows if I will ever be brave enough to reveal my identity on this blog, but I really hope so. I would love to make this more personal and really share every aspect of my life with you but who knows, lets just see where this magic carpet takes me.

Touchy Subjects

I suppose the purpose of this blog is a bit controversial but please read it cause there are a few things I really think need addressing. This ‘touchy subject’ is weight, a subject that, as a teenager, I deal with every day of my life. First off, I would like to say that I am not the usual teenager who thinks they are far to fat and is on a constant quest to loose weight. In fact, I’m quite the opposite. I desperately wish I was bigger. There are many days when I get up, look in the mirror and hate what I see. My bones stick out, I don’t have boobs like my friends, my legs look like sticks and I don’t have hips. The reason for this is my exceptionally quick metabolism.

If you don’t  know what a metabolism is, it’s pretty much how fast your body uses up calories. For some reason, mine uses them up like air. Whatever I do (and I have tried many things) I never put on weight, and I HATE it. A lot of you will be thinking ‘what are you on about? I would kill for a better metabolism’ but anyone like me will tell you, it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. I would like to point out that I eat more than most people, I in no way starve myself or over exercise and have never had an eating disorder. However, I have had what I imagine is the opposite of an eating disorder when I would eat so much fat and carbohydrate filled foods in an attempt to put on weight that I would feel physically sick. Fortunately that has stopped now but the comments that made me do it haven’t.

I suppose the assumption is the ‘fat kid’ hates getting changed for PE because they get teased in the changing rooms and yeah, unfortunately that probably happens but what people forget is the people who are too slim. The amount of comments I’ve had in the changing rooms such as ‘do you have anorexia?’ or ‘you’re too skinny, there must be something wrong’ still shock me after 3 years. It’s not so much that they hurt me (which they do) its that people think it’s ok to bring up these serious illnesses. Firstly, I would like to point out that I have never had an eating disorder, but do they not think about the fact I could have had anorexia? Do they not care about the fact I could be seriously ill and how much that would have hurt me? To add to their ammunition, I also didn’t wear a bra until a few months into year 9. I don’t think 26AAA exists. I have also been asked if I was going to ‘go and throw that up’ in the lunch hall by someone who was almost a complete stranger which hurt me more than any other comment I have had. They barely knew me, what if I did have bulimia? What if they had just made me throw up that sandwich? Ok, I don’t have bulimia, or any other eating disorder, but that doesn’t mean it didn’t make me feel terrible about myself.

I suppose what shocks me most about these comments is people don’t think of them as hurtful. They think that, because todays idea of ‘perfection’ is stick thin, it won’t hurt me, but it does. No one would go up to someone on the larger side and say ‘are you sure you want to eat that sandwich?’ because that is seen as unacceptable but asking a smaller person if they have anorexia is seen as some sort of twisted compliment.

The reason for this post is yesterdays science lesson. We where learning about BMI and where given the option to work out our own or the examples on the board. Knowing mine would be way into the underweight section, I opted for working out the ones on the board, a move that shocked the girl on my table.

‘You not going to work out yours? But your so skinny, there’s no way your overweight.’

I tried to explain to her that the overweight section was not the one I was scared of, but she just couldn’t grasp it. She seemed to think the underweight section was the one we should be aiming for, not the average. It’s so terrible that todays teenagers are aiming to be underweight. Why? Why do you want your bones to stick out? Why do you want to loose your boobs? Why do you want to be straight up and down? I mean yes, there are upsides, but no more that being on the larger side.

I don’t hate my body as much as I used to, I’ve managed to come to terms with my bones and lack of boobs and hips. I guess the morel of this post is, that’s what we all have to do, learn to love our selves. There are so many things about us that are out of our control; metabolism, genetics, bone structure, medical problems and it is within no ones rights to comment on someone else’s body. So what if they’re overweight? So what is they don’t have boobs? So what if they’re thighs touch? It’s how they are, and it’s not affecting you in any way, shape or form so leave them alone.

So, is calling someone skinny acceptable? Are you on the larger side or the smaller side? Do you get comments on your body or weight? Do you have insecurities or do you embrace you differences?

What I’m trying to say, is everyone is different. Embrace it and be yourself, after all, the world would be very boring if we where all the same.

Thanks for reading!

Having curly hair

I have rather strange hair I suppose. It’s not exactly ‘curly’ but it is most definitely not straight. What I mean by that is, I don’t have ringlets but my hair is still uncontrollable and vaguely afro like. If you have hair like me please inform me.

Anyway, the reason for this post is, I need to clear up a few things.

  1. Just because my hair is more… textured than most does not mean I can ‘do anything with it’. This is an assumption made by most of my friends as they daily ask me why I have my hair just hanging there is no particular style at all. The reason for that is, it has become to thick to even fit in a hair band. I am not joking.
  2. I physically cannot straighten my hair. Well, I probably could, it would just take a large amount of time from my day. And by large amount of time I mean 5 hours. I get many a comment about ‘how nice my hair would look straight’, but what these people don’t understand is I do not particularly want to get up at 3am in order to straighten my locks when they would only frizz up again at the slightest hint of moisture in the air.
  3. Having thick hair is not better. Well, if you have thin hair you would probably disagree but mine is simply out of control. Like I mentioned, it has become too thick to fit in a hair band which has caused great problems whilst trying to restrain it in a reasonably neat bun for ballet. *sigh* I need a hair cut.
  4. On the subject of hair cutting, imagine if every time you went for a trim you ended up at the hair dressers for 3 hours. That is a reality for me, there’s only so long I can string out conversations about the weather, my GCSE’s and Corrie.
  5. And finally. The assumption that has always bothered me the most. Having wavy hair does not mean I can simply get up and not do anything with it. I wake up with, quite literally, a birds nest on my head. Every morning. Controlling it involves a great process of combing, washing, drying, frizz easing and hair spraying. Unfortunately I sometimes do not wake up in time for this extensive hair regime and end up a matted mess for the entire school day.

Maybe I should just shave my head.

Anyway, I’m sure if you have straight hair you have a list just as long full of things you hate about your locks and would give anything for a bit more texture. I suppose everyone wants what they can’t have but we can’t change our genes, so embrace the characteristics you’ve been given. However much I may rant and rave about my hair, on a good day I love it, and I guess that’s what we all need to learn to do. Love ourselves for who we are.

Thanks for reading!

10 ways to spruce up your room super cheaply

Last weekend I decided it was time to ditch the 10 year old pink fairy themed room and give the place I spend the majority of my time a bit of a spruce up. However, I have next to no money so had to think up a couple of creative ways to decorate for super cheap and decided to share them with you!

  1. Tidy on a regular basis. I know it won’t change the fairy theme but its a start and will make re-decorating seem much less daunting.
  2. Hoover on a regular basis. I know its a pain but it makes a huge difference, especially if you are like me and constantly have a layer of fabric scraps and paper on your floor
  3. Photos. I made a photo wall on the chimney breast in my room and, if I may say so myself, it looks amazing. This is super cheap as when you first sign up to most photo printing sights they give you 60 or so free and after that, they’re only about 10p so you can keep refreshing that wall!
  4. Make a wall organizer. All you need is a couple of material scraps and a youtube tutorial.
  5. Sweet jars. If you have a couple of big, old empty sweet jars then great! But, if like me, you don’t go to a big store such as the range and you can find plastic replicas for super cheap. Then fill them up with all the bits and bobs which don’t have a place.
  6. Poster wall. I created a poster wall above my bed by going through all my old magazines and ripping out pictures of bands I like and pretty adverts. I also picked up a couple of fashion magazines for about five pounds and padded it out with fashion and cosmetic adverts.
  7. Candles. You can get some really lovely candles in pound land and I picked up 3 of these for my room. They give some extra decoration and smell amazing.
  8. Bunting. Pick out three fabrics which go with your room. You will only need a small amount and you may even find what you need in the scrap box at your local fabric shop! Cut each different fabric into three diamonds, depending on how large you want the bunting. fold them in half and iron them flat then lay some sturdy string along the crease, with each diamond about two inches apart. Fold them over and sew using a sewing machine. You now have your own home made bunting!
  9. Jewelry wrack. If you are anything like me you have more jewelry than you know what to do with. I decided to tidy it up so bought a beautiful jewelry stand from a car boot for just two pounds.
  10. Mirrors. At the same car boot I picked up four gorgeous vintage style mirrors. I have hung them up as a sort of mirror collage and it looks so cute! All the mirrors together cost me just over five pounds.

Over all, sprucing up my room cost me only about 17 pounds and two days and trust me, if I can do it, anyone can.

Make a stranger smile

Today, I went to the toilet at school and as I closed the door sighed at the sight of a large graffiti scrawled across the wall in thick black pen. Naturally I assumed it was some sort of racist or rude joke but still, of course, couldn’t help but read it. As my eyes scanned over it I began to smile. This was not a tasteless joke but the words ‘have a nice pee! : )’. I couldn’t help but chuckle as I pondered who could have written this sweet little note on the wall of the school toilets.

This got me thinking, what do we not do very much? Make strangers smile. I have decided to devise ten ways anyone could brighten a strangers day;

  1. Say ‘bless you’ when someone sneezes in a crowded place. I always do this! Just the thought of this anonymous ‘bless you’ makes me giggle and it will brighten that persons day for sure.
  2. Leave short encouraging messages on post it notes in random places like library books or public toilet walls. Just writing something as simple as ‘have a nice day! <3′ or ‘keep smiling!’ is certain to make whoever finds it giggle!
  3. If you go to a drive thru or a busy coffee shop give the server an extra 5 pounds and tell them to give whoever is behind you in the queue’s order for free. This happened to me and my sister once at a cafe and, although we where very confused, I still think it is the nicest and most unexpected thing anyone has ever done for me. 
  4. Compliment someone as they walk past you in the street. Lets face it, we’re never gonna believe our friends, no matter how much they compliment us and, after all, what could be nicer than an anonymous compliment?
  5. When you get off a train, leave a hand written note on the seat wishing the next passenger a pleasant journey.
  6. Draw a smiley face on the end of the toilet paper in a public rest room.
  7.  Fill out ten post it notes with compliments such as ‘that really suits you’, ‘you look amazing!’ or ‘WOW’ and stick them on the mirror of a clothes shop changing room.
  8. Leave all of your spare change around your nearest town, with their heads facing up, and you are sure to make dozens of little children’s day.
  9. If you are bored on a car journey (and not driving) wave to other bored looking passengers as you pass them. This is sure to stop your boredom and make them smile.
  10. Finally, smile yourself. Just smiling at someone will automatically make them feel better and will often make them smile back.

So there you have it. I know this isn’t going to change the world but who knows, If you try out just one of these, that person might remember it forever.

6 procrastination methods and how to combat them

I hate to say it, but procrastination is one of my worst habits. If I have set myself a task for that day, for instance, finish a drawing I have started the day before I would literally rather do anything than that one drawing. I will happily do another drawing, art homework or sometimes. Even. English homework. But, ironically, if I have art homework due the next day I will happily draw anything but what I need to for art.

Anyway, since procrastination is a wide spread problem I have made a list of my top six procrastination methods and how to combat them

1.Watching friends.

I love friends and watch it way to much. I have the box set and have watched every single episode at least three times. See, if I’m doing homework and decide to give myself an undeserved break, I think to myself ‘I’ll just watch one episode… and another… just one more’ and end up watching an entire series. I am out of control.

You can combat this by making sure your TV or DVD is out of your site as if you can see or hear an object it makes the temptation much greater. You can also tell yourself that if you finish whatever your doing you can congratulate yourself by watching whatever it is that’s tempting you.

2. Social media.

A common causer of procrastination. It makes it even worse that my sister made the laptop automatically show facebook and twitter when you open up the internet. This means I find myself mindlessly browsing for hours instead of doing what I am supposed to.

You can combat this by making sure your computer does not show you facebook or alert you when you have a message. If you are being distracted by social media on your phone then either turn it or the alert off. If your phone makes a noise to tell you you have a facebook or text or email then you are much more tempted to check it and it takes the average person 20-40 minutes to regain concentration after checking social media.

3. music.

I tend to listen to music when I do everything, homework, cleaning, even in the shower. With some types of homework I find it useful, it tends to make me concentrate more as I am also enjoying it and not bored out of my mind. However, if I’m writing an essay and I have music on I end up either writing the lyrics down by accident or dancing around my room singing at the top of my voice.

You can combat this by either playing lyricless music or none at all. However, if I have no music on I find myself getting very  bored and restless but hey, everyone’s different.

5. Eating.

This is probably my worst one. The minute I become bored, I trick myself into thinking I’m hungry or thirsty or most of the time, both. I then take the longest time possible to make myself a cup of coffee and grab a biscuit just to avoid doing what I’m meant to. I often end up taking 20 minutes just to make a coffee by being ridiculously precise about the amount of water, coffee and milk, often using scales and measuring jugs in the process.

You can combat this by, just like the TV, hiding all food from your sight. If you can’t see or smell it, you won’t be tempted by it and won’t become hungry. I mean, it’s fine to have a cup of coffee while working just try not to take 20 minutes making it.

6. Blogging.

While trying to work, I will often have a sudden blogging idea and find myself either writing and posting it or scribbling it down in great detain in my english book. However, the minute I realize I haven’t posted in like a week I have no ideas and end up sitting and staring at my computer screen for hours on end with nothing to write.

Anyway, you can combat this by writing down an idea in notes. What I try to do if I have a sudden burst of creativity whilst doing something important is write it down in very vague and quick notes and write and post it when I have the time. This means my idea won’t be forgotten but also won’t interfere with things much more important than blogging.

So there you have it, 6 ways to procrastinate and how to combat them. I hope this maybe helped in some way? Anyway, go do something and stop procrastinating!